Tell me if this scenario sounds familiar to you:
You feel like you’re a great communicator in certain areas of your life and not others. Maybe at work you’re more open and less defensive or argumentative than when you are at home. Or it could be at home it’s easier for you to say what you mean and ask for what you need than at the office. And while one area of your life is thriving the other is frustrating, difficult, and making you feel like a bad person.
Or what about this one:
You feel stuck in your interactions with others. Having the same conversations again and again and not coming away with any new outcome. There’s an overall feeling of helplessness to some of your relationships and not knowing how to or if you can make things better. There’s a sense of overwhelm that makes it difficult to understand the situation – so a lot of what comes out of your mouth feels rushed. How do you switch gears?
No matter what the scenario, the words that have you shaking your head and making it hard to get a good nights rest go something like:
I need to stop jumping to conclusions and reacting so quickly
I need to stop being mean to the people I love.
I need to not be so defensive and argumentative.
I want to be so easy going and instead I do the opposite.
I need to be able to handle difficult conversations without screaming or shutting down.
Well, if you’ve landed on this page, the awesome news is that through my books, courses, blog and newsletter you’ll learn practical tips to start helping you communicate in the best way possible, and also lots of questions to get you thinking about the world differently.
My goal is to help you learn that changing how you communicate with yourself and others can change your life.
The Why Behind My Work
The whole narrative of my life shifted when Mauricio (Mau) my first love, my best friend, the person who knew me the best in the world passed away unexpectedly a handful of years ago. He was 32.
The minute it happened, my life changed forever.
I was a blank canvas, empty.
Out of my loss came this need, desire, to feel good, to feel cared for. But no matter how much other people tried to nurture me, they couldn’t.
Little-by-little, I realized that the only person who could take care of me, make me a priority, make me feel good, was me. I had to undo alot of what I had been taught and if I wanted to change the way I lived in the world I was going to have to change the way I interacted with it. This meant shifting the way I interacted with myself, others, and in turn the world.
I had to learn how to communicate differently to lead a more empowered life.
Now, what I want to do is give all of you the same opportunity. I want to help you learn how to take care of who you are by paying attention to how you speak in your career, relationships, life! Because you my friend deserve it.
Cynthia Kane is a certified meditation and mindfulness instructor dedicated to helping men and women change their communication routines so they feel in control of their words and understood at home and at work. She received her BA from Bard College and her MFA from Sarah Lawrence College. Her work has appeared in numerous publications, including the Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, Yoga Journal, and Woman’s Day Magazine. She is the author of How to Communicate Like a Buddhist (Hierophant Publishing, April 2016) and Talk to Yourself Like a Buddhist (Hierophant Publishing, April 2018) and the founder of the Intentional Communication Institute. She has helped thousands of people change their way of communicating through her online courses, workshops, and certification program. She lives in Washington, DC with her husband and son. For more information go to www.cynthiakane.com